Rebecca Adler and Andy Warren, May 10, 2008, Wilmington, Delaware

This was the first black tie wedding I have been to and I really enjoyed dressing up and seeing everyone else dressed up. I like that you don’t have to wear a belt with a tuxedo. And the patent leather shoes are pretty snazzy.

There was tons of delicious food at this wedding and the band was great. Late into the night, when the dessert came out, they turned off all the lights because they set the dessert on fire – it was bananas flambe. Daphne also liked how the groomsmen wore calla lilies on their lapels and how there was this cool glass box with the invitation that was set on a table to collect gifts and cards (both pictured below.)

I think we are going to try and find a similar thing to collect envelopes and gifts. When we first started planning our wedding, I said we should get a newspaper box (like the kind you see in the subway), and that everyone could open it up and put their gifts in there. But now I think that idea is kind of tacky.

So since we are planning our wedding, attending other people’s weddings is more than just a chance to have a good time to re-connect with friends. It’s an opportunity to take notes and get ideas on things we may like to incorporate into our own wedding. It also helps us figure out what we don’t want, but of course I’m not going to write about that, because that wouldn’t be very nice, would it?

Here now, are some photos and thoughts from the first wedding we went to this year:

Pamela Gaines and Adam Leenig, January 19, 2008, New York City

This wedding had a very cool, hip, New York feel. It was held on one of the top floors of a warehouse in the warehouse district. Lots of candles, a nice mood.